Most couples arrive at a photo session with the same question: what do we do with our hands? You do not need a collection of poses or experience in front of a camera. A comfortable starting position, a little movement and clear direction from the photographer are usually more useful.
The aim is to recognise yourselves in the photographs. If a pose feels uncomfortable or a gesture is unlike you, say so. The photographer can adjust it rather than ask you to hold a position that never settles.
Start close, with somewhere comfortable to stand
Stand beside each other, turn slightly towards one another and let your weight settle onto one leg. Keep your knees soft rather than locked. There is no need to pull your shoulders back dramatically or stretch your neck. Breathe out, lower your shoulders and let the photographer check the angle.
Your faces do not always need to be at the same height. A difference in height can be part of the picture. Choose level ground first; balancing on a kerb or a step is distracting, particularly in heels or a long dress. Tell the photographer about any movement or position that is difficult for you.
Give your hands a simple job
Hold hands, rest a hand on an arm, or lightly adjust a jacket. These are starting points, not instructions to keep moving constantly. A relaxed hand usually looks better than fingers spread deliberately for the camera. Avoid gripping each other tightly or pressing a hand flat against the body.
If there is a bouquet, hold it low enough to keep your faces and outfits visible. For ring photographs, the photographer can direct the hands once the wider portraits are finished. You do not have to display the ring in every frame.
Walk slowly, then pause
A short walk gives you something familiar to do. Walk a little more slowly than normal, stay close enough to interact and look at one another for a few steps. The photographer should choose a safe, clear route. Do not walk backwards into a road or ignore pedestrians to keep a photograph going.
The pause after the walk is often useful: you have stopped concentrating on how to stand. Keep talking while the photographer changes position. A quiet exchange is enough; you do not need to manufacture laughter or repeat a kiss until it becomes a performance.
Decide where to look
Alternate between looking at one another, looking in the direction you are walking and looking at the camera when asked. Looking down in every photograph can hide your expressions. Equally, staring into the lens throughout the session can make a couple portrait feel formal.
For a close portrait, bring your faces towards each other slowly. Stop before the position feels strained. The photographer can move around you to find the frame instead of asking you to hold an exaggerated lean.
Choose clothes you can move in
Try sitting, walking and lifting your arms in your outfit before the session. Shoes that hurt change the way you stand. Bring comfortable shoes for the route and change where it is practical. Empty bulky pockets and decide who will hold phones, bags and coats during each set of pictures.
A little preparation saves interruptions, but there is no need to disguise your usual style. Clothing should work with the location and weather as well as the photographs. See our guide to choosing a Paris photo location before planning several outfit changes across the city.
For engagement and proposal photographs
After a surprise proposal, allow a few minutes before starting directed portraits. The reaction matters more than immediately getting everyone into position. Sit down, talk or take a short walk if that feels right. Our surprise proposal photography guide explains how to leave room for those first moments.
For a wedding session, share any family or cultural expectations in advance. You can include formal portraits and still leave time for quieter pictures together. Browse the couple and wedding portrait gallery to identify the balance you prefer.
What to tell the photographer beforehand
Share two or three photographs you like and explain why: the distance, the light, the movement or the expression. Mention anything you would rather avoid, including public displays of affection. A short, specific conversation is more useful than a long list of poses to copy.
If you are arranging a session, send your date, the type of photographs you want and any comfort or accessibility needs. The location and pace can then be planned around you.